First off, your daughter is lucky to have such an amazing mom. I am not married, but my brother is in an interracial marriage( British and African American) and has had similar experiences. It’s been cool seeing my niece and nephew grow up with being exposed to two different cultures. I have also enjoyed seeing my brother and sister-in-law navigate their differences in parenting. Thank you again for sharing this letter!
Wow! Your brother and sister-in-law sound like wonderful parents. Parenting is always hard work, but the payoff is incredible. I imagine that sentiment is even more true when you are fusing two cultures within the same family unit. Thank you so much for sharing! <3
Love this, and your description of your daughter! You have a wonderful family, clearly! "as I write this, it’s become clear to me that I need to cut myself some slack. This is because I sense that our daughter understands exactly who she is" I also sensed, particularly with my younger children a strong sense of innate knowing of themselves...although I am half Jewish and my husband is a blend of East Asian and Armenia, for them it's more like they came in with soul intuition. So we've raised them with appreciation for cultures but I think we are more the soup that has been through the blender and the different elements are not as distinct, but they combine in a way that allows a unique soul to come through and NOT be define by identity politics YET be confident in who they are. I love what you write about a joyful responsibiltiy, an open mind and heart. To me I have always valued above all teaching my children to listen to the whispers of their own inner truth and to follow their conscience and express their true potential in THEIR way. I once ran into a South Asian woman at a chess event. We connected and she asked me if I had any idea what I wanted to "make my son into, like doctor, lawyer engineer..." and I laughed because I said, "I don't think it is my job to make my children into anything...I think they come with the seed or blueprint of their highest potential and I am here to help them to become who they are here to be...I am to be a humble learner, to discern what environments, conditions and ingredients they need thrive and to become who they are destined to be..." the woman then also laughed and said, "I never thought of it like that, but you're right." I think her Hindu background placed it in a context that made sense, but her culture did not...but I think with people you vibe with, culture becomes a cause for enrichment and balance and learning. I think your daughter is very lucky she chose you and thanks to your tiger mom instincts you'll give her all the opportunities her soul needs and thanks to your self-awareness, you'll remember to let her be her own self and remember to allow her to be a human BEING and relax around the doing unless it is truly aligned to her True Self.
First off, your daughter is lucky to have such an amazing mom. I am not married, but my brother is in an interracial marriage( British and African American) and has had similar experiences. It’s been cool seeing my niece and nephew grow up with being exposed to two different cultures. I have also enjoyed seeing my brother and sister-in-law navigate their differences in parenting. Thank you again for sharing this letter!
Wow! Your brother and sister-in-law sound like wonderful parents. Parenting is always hard work, but the payoff is incredible. I imagine that sentiment is even more true when you are fusing two cultures within the same family unit. Thank you so much for sharing! <3
Love this, and your description of your daughter! You have a wonderful family, clearly! "as I write this, it’s become clear to me that I need to cut myself some slack. This is because I sense that our daughter understands exactly who she is" I also sensed, particularly with my younger children a strong sense of innate knowing of themselves...although I am half Jewish and my husband is a blend of East Asian and Armenia, for them it's more like they came in with soul intuition. So we've raised them with appreciation for cultures but I think we are more the soup that has been through the blender and the different elements are not as distinct, but they combine in a way that allows a unique soul to come through and NOT be define by identity politics YET be confident in who they are. I love what you write about a joyful responsibiltiy, an open mind and heart. To me I have always valued above all teaching my children to listen to the whispers of their own inner truth and to follow their conscience and express their true potential in THEIR way. I once ran into a South Asian woman at a chess event. We connected and she asked me if I had any idea what I wanted to "make my son into, like doctor, lawyer engineer..." and I laughed because I said, "I don't think it is my job to make my children into anything...I think they come with the seed or blueprint of their highest potential and I am here to help them to become who they are here to be...I am to be a humble learner, to discern what environments, conditions and ingredients they need thrive and to become who they are destined to be..." the woman then also laughed and said, "I never thought of it like that, but you're right." I think her Hindu background placed it in a context that made sense, but her culture did not...but I think with people you vibe with, culture becomes a cause for enrichment and balance and learning. I think your daughter is very lucky she chose you and thanks to your tiger mom instincts you'll give her all the opportunities her soul needs and thanks to your self-awareness, you'll remember to let her be her own self and remember to allow her to be a human BEING and relax around the doing unless it is truly aligned to her True Self.